Porn
Porn is a very hush hush topic but it seems to have a huge effect on our society. While having a discussion with my friend on this issue a few very true and important things came up. One thing being the fact that pressure is put on women. Some men who watch pornography see all of these crazy things and then expect women to be just like the women in these videos. It makes many women feel more self-conscious about their bodies and how they are in bed. Porn also limits intimacy between couples because men can just watch the computer screen or the TV instead of being with their wives. These types of things cause many couples to divorce or break up, which is a horrible thing. Also another problem beyond married couples is teenagers. Teens that have never actually been intimate with anyone are watching porn and are getting a nonrealistic view of what sex really is. Because of this some boys will expect this out of a girl and pressure them to do what they saw. I believe that porn is totally inappropriate for young teens and parents should block this from their computers and on their TV’s. But of course this will not stop them from seeing it if they really want to. Other kids in school are going to show them it… well maybe what really needs to be done is that parents need to discuss such things with their kids. If they are aware of the fact that these things don’t really happen and understand it better then I think it would be less of a problem. Parents need to be less scared to talk to their kids about sex, they are going to grow up, they need to know… and wouldn’t you rather tell them the truth then have them find out things from their friends that’s aren’t the real facts. Educate your kids in order to protect them.
April 11th, 2007 at 9:42 pm
I generally try to comment on different people’s blogs, but you have quite a few good/interesting topics so here’s another one…
I agree that porn plays a huge role in our society, but it’s not one that immediately comes to mind because it seems to be a taboo topic. You bring up many good points about the negatives of porn that don’t always occur to other people. I was reading just the other day on the internet about this guy who founded a group called “Pancakes and Porn” or something like that. (My details will be a little fuzzy because I read it last week or something, but I’ll try to hit the main points.) Basically, once a month a group of guys get together for breakfast and talk about their porn addictions. It’s much like AA meetings, but it sounded slightly more informal and it’s not a court-mandated meeting situation like AA can be for some people. Because it’s completely voluntary I feel that it’s probably more effective because you have men there that really WANT to change and aren’t just there because the judge told them they had to.
It really does come down to how and what parents tell their children about sex. I understand that it’s awkward for parents to imagine their child doing that, but they’ve also been the child in the situation before. If parents didn’t treat sex as so taboo and were more open to discuss it, I would think that the mystery and thrill of having sex and other sexual experiences would diminish, at least slightly. Additionally, if parents have an open discussion with their child about sex, the child (hopefully at least teen years though) would be more likely to ask about protective measures when they decide to become sexually active. I understand that parents don’t want their child to be little whores or running around getting a bunch of girls pregnant, but access to information would go a long way to help prevent unwanted/unplanned pregnancies and STDs in the future.
April 16th, 2007 at 7:50 pm
Oh man. Let me tell you. The conversation I had with my parents about sex was both brief and wholly uninformative. Let me list it to you for your enjoyment.
I am sitting in my room watching a movie. My dad and mom enter together…an ominous portent.
They look serious. My dad with this arms crossed and my mother lingering awkwardly behind him.
I put the computer down. A death in the family? No there are no tears. Then what…
Parents- Ummm, chris can we talk to you about something?
ME- Yah, sure. What’s up?
Parents- Can we talk upstairs?
ME- Yes?
…we walk up the stairs…
We enter my parents room. They take a seat on their bed and I sit on a chair across from them.
Parents- We wanted to talk to you about …sex.
Me- Ahh… ok.
Parents- Your mother and I wanted you to understand that sex… well its important that two people are careful and make responsible choices when it comes to sex.
Me- *nod*
Parents- Uhhh ya have you had sex?
Me- umm no?
Parents- Ok. good.
The End.
Now. Clearly as you can see. I didn’t learn to much about anything. Other then I shouldn’t have sex. It’s also important to point out that I was 16 or 17 when we had this conversation. Despite how late this conversation happened I didn’t turn out to be a whore. I think this is because a more important ‘conversation’ had been going on all my life. My parents had form a young age instilled and emphasized a respect for women.
I think if a guy fundamentally respects women he will be far less likely to have sex at a young age and/or have porn greatly effect that.